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How to Not to be a Bridezilla

How to Not to be a Bridezilla

The majority of women who get engaged and begin planning their weddings do not intend to turn into the dreaded bridezilla. However, we have all heard stories of how crazy some women become when it comes to planning their weddings and how hard to deal with they are. Make sure that you do not turn into the crazy bride-to-be that everyone avoids like the plague. Here are a few tips to remember as your wedding day draws near.

Listen and respect the opinions of others. While your wedding day is the one day you have most likely been dreaming of for years, this doesn’t give you the right to ignore the thoughts and opinions of others involved in the wedding. Yes, you and your fiance will have the final say when it comes to the decisions that need to be made, but make sure that you take the time to listen to the input of others before you make your decision. And, when you do make a decision that isn’t in-line with what someone else thinks, be respectful when explaining why you chose to do things the way you did. The last word doesn’t always have to be yours. I’m not quite sure why so many people feel like they always have to have the last word these days. Even in heated discussions, the discussion can easily be diffused by saying, I think we are going to have to agree to disagree. If you find yourself in a discussion about weddings (or even your wedding), remind yourself that you don’t have to have the last word. You don’t want everyone around you to think that you are trying to be a know-it-all or that you believe your opinion is superior to everyone else’s.…

Dealing with Family at Weddings

Dealing with Family at Weddings

This past weekend I was the matron of honor in my best friend’s wedding. The wedding itself was wonderful, but all of the drama leading up to the wedding (and even a little afterwards) was a bit crazy. Yes, every wedding has drama, but this was just a little ridiculous. The behavior of the groom’s father and his family left my friend (the bride) incredibly stressed out by the time Friday’s rehearsal dinner rolled around.

If you are planning a wedding and have some opinionated family members involved, the tips below should help you out.

Get on the same page with your future spouse. Generally, potential problems between you and family (or soon-to-be-family) will begin show early in the planning stage. Don’t hesitate to tell your fiancé what is going on. After all, you are marrying your best friend, right? It’s important that you both get on the same page about the situation as soon as possible so you can both present a united front to your family regarding the decisions you’re making about the wedding. Why a united front? More than likely, these family members will try to speak with each of you separately because they think it will give them a better opportunity to win you over to their way of thinking. Don’t tell them everything. One of the problems that contributed to my friend’s wedding was how much information the groom’s family was given. It wasn’t because the bride and groom were just offering up information willingly, they were put on the spot several times and asked specific questions that, frankly, didn’t have any business being asked. To prevent this from happening, set up a game plan from the very beginning with your fiancé and determine how you will respond to questions…