It’s safe to say that we all know, or have seen someone, who spoils their child. You may not know the person personally, but chances are you’ve at least seen a child in a store throw a temper tantrum until he/she got the wanted item. The problem for many of us is that we look at other children and quickly label them as “spoiled,” but we fail to notice the tell-tell signs that our own children may be on the verge of being spoiled themselves. So, how do you know if you have a spoiled child? Below are a few indicators.
A toy is expected anytime you go to the store. Most parents don’t set out to spoil their children, but it can easily happen when parents feel guilty about something. A lot of parents buy their children toys or other wanted items when they want to make up to their child for something. For instance, when mom goes back to work and the little one has to start going to daycare…a toy can make it all better when mom comes to pick her up. Or, one parent feels bad about the divorce, so every time he picks the child up, the little one gets to go pick out a toy. Buying toys occasionally for your little one isn’t a problem, but when it’s done on a consistent basis it can give the child a false sense of entitlement which will cause them to expect something every time they go to the store or someone comes to visit them. Help is demanded when it’s not needed. This is a trap that I’m constantly trying to avoid. I’m always a little too eager to” help” my five year old out. It started when he was a baby…of course, I had to…