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Dealing with Family at Weddings

Dealing with Family at Weddings

This past weekend I was the matron of honor in my best friend’s wedding. The wedding itself was wonderful, but all of the drama leading up to the wedding (and even a little afterwards) was a bit crazy. Yes, every wedding has drama, but this was just a little ridiculous. The behavior of the groom’s father and his family left my friend (the bride) incredibly stressed out by the time Friday’s rehearsal dinner rolled around.

If you are planning a wedding and have some opinionated family members involved, the tips below should help you out.

  • Get on the same page with your future spouse. Generally, potential problems between you and family (or soon-to-be-family) will begin show early in the planning stage. Don’t hesitate to tell your fiancé what is going on. After all, you are marrying your best friend, right? It’s important that you both get on the same page about the situation as soon as possible so you can both present a united front to your family regarding the decisions you’re making about the wedding. Why a united front? More than likely, these family members will try to speak with each of you separately because they think it will give them a better opportunity to win you over to their way of thinking.
  • Don’t tell them everything. One of the problems that contributed to my friend’s wedding was how much information the groom’s family was given. It wasn’t because the bride and groom were just offering up information willingly, they were put on the spot several times and asked specific questions that, frankly, didn’t have any business being asked. To prevent this from happening, set up a game plan from the very beginning with your fiancé and determine how you will respond to questions about the wedding that you don’t want to answer. Just because you are planning a wedding, doesn’t mean everyone needs to know how you’re doing everything or when everything is occurring.
  • Stand firm in your decisions. Finally, don’t be afraid to stand firm in the decisions that you and your fiancé make regarding your wedding. This is YOUR day. Your parents, grandparents and other family members have all had the chance to plan their own wedding – they don’t need to plan yours. And, for those of you with younger family member who are trying to interfere, they will have a chance to plan their own wedding – so don’t feel obligated to please them with your wedding. That’s the biggest issue many people face when planning weddings…trying to please everyone. The only two people who need to be happy with the wedding plans are the bride and groom. Therefore, stand firm in your decisions.

Need a Favor?

If you’re planning a wedding, then you may have already started thinking about the wedding favors. These are the small little gifts that the newly married couple sends home with their guests in an effort to say “Thank You for Attending.” These gifts do not need to be big or expensive, but just a small token of your appreciation to acknowledge the time sacrifice your guests made to share the day with you. Below are a few ideas to think about.

  • Candy Coated Almonds – Candy coated almonds are one of the most traditional types of wedding favors given because the almond is a symbol of fertility. Therefore, when brides and grooms send candy coated almonds home with their guests, they are wishing them many years of fertile living (happiness, wealth, health, etc.). Purchase some small pieces of colored tulle (to match your wedding colors) and wrap up a few pieces of almonds and tie with a decorative ribbon to complete the look.
  • Decorated Fortune Cookies – Today, you can order specially made fortune cookies to match your wedding décor. Your guests will love these delightfully yummy treats and the treasure they find inside!
  • Small Photo Frames – Everyone has special photos of people they love placed strategically throughout their homes. Therefore, why not give them a decorative photo frame that they can take home with your picture in it? Or, you can always place the photo frame at each place setting with the guests’ names in them if you prefer to let them choose their own picture to fill it with. Either way, these are great wedding favors your guests will appreciate.

Make Time for Vacation

Several decades ago, families didn’t think twice about taking family vacations together. It was something families just did together. However, today things are quite different. Most families have two working spouses and the kids are generally in a ton of activities during the summertime, making it hard to get away for a family vacation – no matter how small it may be.


The sad thing is that the time families used to spend with each other on vacation is something that families of today desperately need. With the advances in technology and all of the demands pulling family members away from each other, it’s important to make time to spend with each other. Taking the family on a vacation is one of the best ways to accomplish this.

Okay, so how in the world are you supposed to make time for a family vacation? Well, one of the best ways is to use a summer event to jump-start your vacation. For example, most of us get invited to a wedding every summer. The fun thing is that some of the weddings we are invited to aren’t close…like, they’re in another state. For those weddings, most of us go online and send a gift to the happy couple.

Why not make the decision to go to that wedding? Sure, you’ll have to pack formalwear for members of the family (boys’ suits, dresses for girls, men’s formalwear, etc.), but if you can turn the wedding into a 5-7 day vacation, isn’t it worth it? Plus, by doing this, you’ll be killing two birds with one stone, so to say, as you’ll be able to attend the wedding of a relative or close family friend and be able to take your family on a vacation. All you need to do is look for a place within 100 miles or so of the wedding that has several attractions to interest all the members of your family and you’ll be set.

Perhaps you aren’t expecting an invitation to a summer wedding that’s very far way…that’s okay. You can always do something simple like take your family on a 4-day camping excursion. Even if you only travel across the state and stay for a few days, the time alone with your family will be well worth it.

The lack of family vacations being taken in America is disturbing because a lot of quality time away from the outside distractions of this world is being missed out on. Don’t let this happen to you and your family. I know this may be an odd post for KidsFormal.com, but we work with a lot of families as we help them choose tuxedos, dresses and other formalwear for their kids and we see how distant family members are becoming with each other. It’s a problem that needs to be fixed. Take the first step and go somewhere alone with your family for a few days and enjoy the quality time you spend with each other!

Kids Wedding Clothing: How Much to Spend?

When you begin planning a wedding, one of the first issues that must be addressed is the budget. At least this is the case for most people. Everything involved in your wedding cost money whether it’s the invitations, decorations, flower basket, ring pillow, entertainment, etc. You even have to consider how much the kids’ wedding clothing will cost for the little ones in your wedding. Below are a few tips for determining how much to spend on kids wedding clothing for your wedding.

  • Your Budget – As mentioned above, your budget is the first thing you have to determine when you begin planning a wedding. The good news about kids wedding clothing is that you can spend as little or as much as you want on it. There are affordable options in children’s formalwear for all budgets. So, when you are thinking about the appropriate amount to budget in for kids formalwear, come up with an amount that you are comfortable with. It should be less than what you’re planning to spend on the bridal party attire, pictures and decorations.
  • Type of Wedding – You also need to take the style of wedding into consideration. For example, if you’re having a beachside wedding in Hawaii, you may not want your flower girls and ring bearers in highly formal attire. Instead, you may opt for summer dresses for the flower girls and dress shirts and shorts for the ring bearers. This will affect your budget.



  • Where You Shop – If you make the decision to order kids wedding clothing from online retailers, such as KidsFormal.com, you will save a substantial amount of money in comparison to wedding boutiques and bridal shops. By making this decision early in the planning stage, you will be able to adjust your budget accordingly.

Tips for Wedding Dress Shopping

Many brides-to-be get overwhelmed soon after they have gotten engaged and started the wedding planning process. One of the biggest stressors can be finding the wedding dress. After all, the wedding dress is probably the most important item at the wedding, except for the bride and groom of course. Therefore, if you are in the beginning stages of planning your wedding, below are a few tips to remember as you start shopping for your wedding dress.

  • Start Early. You can never start your “hunt” for the perfect wedding dress too early. In fact, many experts recommend that brides-to-be begin making appointments with bridal shops 9 months before the actual wedding. This will give you plenty of time to find the “right” dress and to schedule in the alternation appointments that will follow too.
  • Bring a Few Pictures. More than likely you have already browsed several wedding magazines and have seen pictures of wedding dresses that you like. Don’t be afraid to bring a few of these pictures along with you so you can show the salesperson the styles of dresses you do like.
  • Bring Your Accessories. If you have already found the perfect pair of shoes and are just looking for the dress to wear with them, then make sure you bring the shoes along so you can wear them while trying on various dresses. You can also bring along the jewelry you intend to wear on your wedding day if you have it picked out as well.
  • Have a Budget. Finally, before you begin shopping for wedding dresses, make sure you have a definite budget in place for the dress. When determining your budget keep in mind that the dress isn’t the only cost for your wedding day ensemble. You should also budget for the veil, “filler” skirts, alterations and any other “extras” you can think of that will be necessary to complete the dress.